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QUESTION FOR YOU
Consider - how do you interpret a friend or maybe a partners silence, what if you see someone you know with more than usual sunken shoulders their head down and turned away.
Or a family member who sits like Gollum in lord of the rings mode posture and looks at you with a certain type of stare when you talk.
Can you see why good therapy is more than just text, more than just the words itself??
How we verbalise our tone of voice, the speed of how we speak? pauses, silence…. what is being said and not being said even, what does our body language say - how it all plays a part in how we relate, how we feel, we think and maintain good relationships.
This is what this therapy is.
Embodied Relational Psychotherapy informed also by neuroscience, the mind-body neuro-bio feedback, helps the whole of a person as mind and relating get affected by all. Sensations, postures being held, thoughts, clear thinking, emoting, feelings all considered to ensure full therapeutic benefits in the interaction of these.
Trained in psychodynamic and also in humanistic relational integrative. Assoc.UKPC/HIPC/WPI
Topics I regularly work with.
ADHD/ & Co-existing issues
Perimenopause - menopause (plus the ADHD impact).
Bereavement how to deal with grief, how do I carry on with life and its responsibilities when I am in bits crying all the time or angry and rage.
Changes that are hard to manage in life - separation, divorce, loss of home, loss of friendship circles.
Depression /low mood/stuckness/no motivation for life
Existential meaning of life - what’s the point? where’s my purpose.
What is therapy?
Do I need therapy?
For those who have yet to have had any counselling or psychotherapy, these questions often come up, I hope my words below provide some answers.
With different styles/approaches in therapy I feel it is useful to let you know what’s important research wise for good therapy results and the differences of what real therapy is versus text/words only ones.
Importantly, the success of therapy shows that the human to human relationship matters. In our interaction regions of the brain and neural pathways get activate, creating the potential for genuine healing of past experiences that have been negative, it aids cognitive growth and understanding. We call this the therapeutic relationship. This is why I offer free trial so we can check if we feel right and compatible for each other. If you want to read more on this let me know by email or read up research on human brain to human brain in human developmental stages and also baby child observation studies.
It is not about short term with techniques only, or a chatbot text all which exist out there. This style of therapy is called the embodied relational, it is humanistic and a mind-body integrative approach.
The whole picture of you, your lived experience, patterns, joining of these dots, the way you frown when saying certain words. This is what makes therapy an incredible healing and life enhancing process. Sure there are focus points too - though my role is to always be able to hold everything everywhere all at once without judgement. The patterns, your history, your last weeks state of being versus this weeks, the now, the all and simultaneously be in the minutiae, the focusing, the spotting of links to give you the aha moment - the catalyst for long term change and knowing of self. Plus alternative ways of seeing things, challenge inconsistencies even. This is to help you see all views to know and understand the answers for yourself (the people in your life would not appreciate a sycophantic people pleasing therapist - and nor would you).
I give you all this with genuine care, empathy, interest and actively listening in the being of relating with you. This is a vocation for me not just a job. To see people start to be happy in the change and then start to really thrive and move on in life and leave therapy is an honour to witness.
Therapy is more than just defining it as mental health issues. Sure there are themes that people initially come in for - though you always gain more in your discovery of Self.
This is about you, your chance at getting the best of this existence which is short in the whole scheme of things. Make it the best life it can be for you, your aliveness, your connections, your contentment, your know how, to start to take a chance at doing new things because you now believe in yourself and that you will ok in the ebbs and flows of life.
Life with ADHD/ADD those who receive a late diagnosis in life often go through a stage of extra reflection with feelings and thoughts on life experience. This with the nagging question of “what now? how can I make the best of life now with all that I know”.
For the last ten years I have been working in this field and have a very nuanced approach to understanding what it is to be you - what are you biggest challenges that you struggle with. Helping you with your feelings and thoughts I provide additional bespoke to you techniques that can help you also have a system in place that works for you. These are not generic tools they are very much down to understanding the intricacies and uniqueness of the individual. Overwhelmed, repeated cycles of burn out and feelings of low self esteem, difficulties in coping with demands of ‘to dos’ in life learning to low mood | depression.
Perimenopause - Menopause and ADHD Combo is a double whammy for women when hormones start to fluctuate and change. There can be an increase in existing adhdness; brain fog, forgetfulness, frightened to do things | stuck paralysis and fatigue. Hormonal changes are hard enough as it is, yet for those with ADHD/ADD you may find your existential thoughts about life and how to stay afloat increasing. It can be a really tough time and the feelings that emanate out if it, can be very debilitating and depressing to face too.
( * I have personal lived experience in this area and in my family. Whilst we are all different do know it is a genuine passion of mine to help others with neurodiversity).
Does therapy work?
Change in life questions/ existential thoughts. There comes a point during certain decades of our life, where we end up looking back at what path we took and why? some contain regrets, some sadness about what didn’t happen as well as what did. Making the most of the now and your future with purpose intent and contentment is a common theme I sit with in the therapy room with people. The question and answer to coming to terms with what is and what now if I want things to change.
Bereavement| Loss | Grief Painful emotional states arise that oscillate from anger one day to deep sadness the next. Not just on death do we enter the place of loss and grief, it also happens in long term relationships and friendships that have abruptly ended. How can we get through to the other side and believe in hope and happiness again.
Relationships There are many complexities that arise in close relationships. From sexual intimacy to losing ones own sense of self. Some people end up in a pattern of feeling like all relationships fail eventually. Therapy can help immensely in helping understand healthy connection and being able to see how to make positive changes. Whether poly, open or monogamous therapy can help in many aspects that arise from relationships.
Sexuality| Gender questioning | LGBTQ+ Society some may say is going backwards in acceptance of diverse ways of being. Ignorance, prejudice and negative comments from others do exist, and over long periods of time can impact our emotional state and sense of belonging and self confidence.
Whether questioning, dealing with shame, or relationship issues, I offer an anti-oppressive no judgement space.
I am part of the Pink therapy network.
I work with a wide range of clients and issues, from depression to loss ,relationships gone wrong.
I have particular long term experience with LGBTQ clients, adult ADHD/AUTISM/ for many years now, this includes my work for Talk to The Rainbow clients, a LGBTQ therapist service in Bristol and London.